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Written on Thursday, March 20th, 2008 @ 9:38am Written on Thursday, March 20th, 2008 @ 9:38amIn response to my message, my cousin replied with 2 pages worth of details on why she specifically dislikes my mom, Nana, and Mormor/Morfar. It’s the most messed up thing one could possibly write. What’s interesting is most of her reasons are stupid little things that would normally bother a person for 5 minutes. In fact, my sister had me go through and circle how many times she wrote, “I know this sounds stupid/silly/ungrateful, but…” Several times she dropped that statement. And guess what! They WERE stupid! Example: She claims my mom doesn’t know how to spell her name. I told my mom this and she goes, “Megan. M-E-G-A-N!”
Megan doesn’t like receiving duplicate items for Christmas. Well giving everyone in the family (including her aunts, uncles, grandparents from her divorced mother’s side) the same Christmas list would be the cause for that. This past Christmas Megan got all butt-hurt because she received a black zip-up hoodie from my mom, the 4th one she had received for Christmas. She decided to tell my mom she needed the gift receipt to return the one my mom gave her. My mom got annoyed because she and my dad try very hard to make sure my cousins receive exactly what they want. So, Megan says to me that this behavior from my mom proves that my mom is “selfish” and that she shouldn’t have to make different Christmas lists as my mom suggested.
My parents do not communicate with her mother’s side of the family, so its a little frustrating when she or her siblings whine, “I already got this!” and it happens to be from people we don’t even talk to. Why should we have to communicate with someone who isn’t even part of our family to make sure they get everything? If they don’t want duplicates, make different lists. I make a special list for my uncle, a special list for Nana, and a special list for my parents. It’s not that hard. It’s called using your brain and Microsoft Word. If she took some time away from bitching in MySpace bulletins, she’d be in great shape.
She also accused my mom of telling my uncle how to raise his kids, particularly the problem child Nicholas. This kid is crazy as they come. He doesn’t eat right, he’s extremely rude, and extremely violent. My mom has never done what she accused her of doing, but rather tried to help suggest books and such. Everyone is too afraid to discipline this kid so naturally it comes to no surprise we get sick of everyone making excuses for his behavior. Megan herself has vented frustration over it too many times. But because my mom has given them a few books only wanting to help, suddenly it turns into my mom trying to raise his kid. It’s ridiculous. But I guess Megan knows better, because you know, Nicholas called the cops on her.
And then to end her explanation on my mom she threw in things from family get-togethers from 3+ years ago, like my mom served her champagne when she said no and that my mom put cherries on cheesecake when my uncle said no. My mom doesn’t always pay attention. Its not she’s trying to be rude, its just sometimes she just flat out doesn’t pay attention, especially when there is a LOT going on. Yeah, my mom is horrible. 
She doesn’t like Nana because Nana makes a big deal to them about sending thank-you cards. Thank you cards are polite. They’re classy and sincere and they say, “I’m making the effort to acknowledge the effort you made on my behalf.” So I guess its kind of embarrassing for a grandma when her own grandchildren can’t be polite. Just a thought. Maybe it’s a hint.
She says Nana always thinks about herself. You know, there are some instances where I’ve thought that was true, but again… CANCER. She’d a widow and she has fucking cancer. How dare a widowed grandma with cancer ask her son for help or *gasp* keep the family informed on how she is doing. Shame, shame, shame!
I think her reasons for disliking my grandparents hit the hardest. Sure Mormor pisses me off sometimes, but I can’t tell you how grateful I am for all the help she has given me, my family, Joshua, and even Rebecca. Mormor has such a kind heart and Morfar is just the cutest grandpa ever. So to hear someone saying that their gifts are not from the heart is just outrageous.
I have never felt like any gift from them was from the heart. Yes, they do give us a present for Christmas but (this probably will sound ungrateful but…) it is never much. Most years we get $5-$10, when you guys get way more… The cards are so impersonal. I could care less about the card but when she signs the cards “The Neilsons” (don’t know if spelling is right) and tells me every year that they are the Neilsons, it makes me feel stupid. I can’t say anything bad about [Morfar] because I don’t really know who he is because all he does is sleep.
God, it’s so offending when people sign their last name on a card. I mean, shit, how rude. And to think they sign mine just “Mormar and Morfar.” Oh noes, RIOT!
When I told Mormor about the money thing she says, “I give them $20 each! They’re not even my grandchildren, but I feel they deserve to have a little spending money to buy something for themselves.” If I had $20 I’d go to McRonald’s to get a chill-pill with a side-order of fries for all four cousins.
All my grandpa does is sleep? All she does is sits there with a constipated look on her face judging everyone, adding them to her hate/dislike list. Besides, I think a person who is having to constantly help his wife to the bathroom in the middle of night and who can’t sleep due to suffering from serious itching thanks to a side-effect from bad meds is entitled to nod off every once in awhile. How dare those 90 year old people!
She’s ignorant, immature, a liar and a hypocrite. Her opinion is worthless. And while I am not going to make an issue of it any further, if her hypocrisy interferes in any way I will step in. 
I know what she is and so does the rest of my family.
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Oh good grief! What an obnoxious person! She sounds like someone who’d frustrate me too! I don’t blame you for wanting to flush her into the toilet!
*mumbles random profanity* I don’t know what her problem is.. wow where do I even begin?!!
Holy crap. I want to slap your cousin. People like that piss me off SO much. She sounds like an extremely selfish person. Instead of complaining about her GIFTS she should remember they are GIFTS and are NOT obligatory!!! I won’t even go into anything else. Burns me up… grrrr…
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i guess my family is just so goddamn poor that no one has ever made any deal about gifts.. but that.. i’m floored with the way she’s acting about this. family is all you go in life..
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