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Written on Friday, July 18th, 2008 @ 8:33am Written on Friday, July 18th, 2008 @ 8:33amThe Friday Five ~
1. If you could change one life-changing event in the life of someone important to you, would you?
I believe everything happens for a reason, but I can’t help but wonder if things would be different if my grandpa (Nana’s husband) were still alive. I wonder if Nana would be different, and there wouldn’t be as much family drama.
2. Which do you think is easier to do, being friends for many years, or being life partners for many years?
Being friends for many years. I’ve been with Joshua for almost 4 years but I can’t even get any of my friends (except Anna) to come visit me. See rant below meme.
3. Have you ever walked away from someone you considered a friend?
Yes I have. It hurts immensely, but you learn people change and sometimes it’s not for the better.
4. If you had to choose between telling the truth and hurting a friend or lying and making them happy, which would you choose?
If you haven’t noticed by now with the family drama I’ve been going on about I choose telling the truth.
5. Which would you rather hear–the truth which will hurt, or the comforting lie?
It may hurt but honesty is the best policy. I can’t tell you how many times I wish I knew the truth. It’d spare me so much hurt and confusion. Not to mention so many damn emo blog entries!
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So I’m really disappointed in the real life people I call friends. I don’t even know if I can really call them friends anymore, especially since I haven’t seen anybody in a few years, and no one bothers to make any effort anymore. I don’t even think any of them would both to keep in touch if it weren’t for MySpace, and even that is sketchy. But I am really bummed out about my second attempt at a Housewarming Party and once again NO ONE (except Joshua’s cousin in Davis) can come down. I mean, I invited people 2 MONTHS in advance and still people managed to give me the weak-ass, “Ohhhh I don’t think I can make it…” And these are the people who snapped at me last year to send the invite more in advance so they’d have time to get work off or make the necessary arrangements so they could be there.
What the heck is up with people? I’ve lived down here for a year and a half and I get the same excuses from everyone. I mean, if you don’t want to come visit me JUST SAY SO! This goes with question #5 up above just tell me the truth. If it’s too much effort to be my friend and just try to come visit me once then wipe the politeness off you face and say, “Cristina, I’m sick of you. There’s no way I’m gonna visit you no matter how in advance you invite me. I spit on your open invitation. It’s just way too much effort, and I have better things to do.” Feel free to copy and paste this response, if you wish.
I know I may sound like a brat, but I’m really frustrated and I don’t think anyone understands how truly lonely I am. Sure I have Joshua, but I don’t have any friends. No one call up and talk to, no one to take me out for a drink, no one to hang out with after classes or go shopping with. I had NO ONE to celebrate my 21st birthday with. Probably one of the big reasons I won’t get married is I probably wouldn’t have any friends to throw a bachelorette party for me. No one wants to be my friend. I try to get involved, I try to talk to people, but no one seems to think I am worth their time to take an extra step. So it really hurts when not only can I not make new friends, but when my so-called old friends can’t even be there for me.
This is why I love the online. And people like Jem who tell it like it is. I wish there were more Jemmies out there! We’d have better people and better coding! 
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1. Yes if it was a disease (though like you I do believe everything happens for a reason)
2. Being friends is easier
3. No
4. Telling the truth, though it can be very hard at times
5. I rather hear the truth
Hey you! I’m really sorry I’m wishy-washy on the invite, and I really am going to try to make it up, at least to just say hi and pop in for a bit. I had a really good time coming to see your place the other day, and I think you’ve really made that into a beautiful house your grandparents can be proud of. Hopefully I’ll get out of work early and I can come say hi before my mom gets here to help me move! But you have to come see my new place, too — once I move into it.
@Anna: Oh no this has nothing to do with you. You’re kinda moving!
It’s for the other people who have been simply, “Um nahhh can’t make it.” And these are the people who have been constantly saying, “I need to come visit you!”
./hugs
The Friday Five ~
1. If you could change one life-changing event in the life of someone important to you, would you?
This is way too personal to really answer.. and I’m ashamed of what I would wish, so i’ll pass on this one.
2. Which do you think is easier to do, being friends for many years, or being life partners for many years?
Hmm… both are hard. I think friendship is easier to keep going cause you can have lull’s and breaks w/o hurting feelings… sig others are harder because there is just that much more involved.
3. Have you ever walked away from someone you considered a friend?
Yes. I’m all for being there for someone. but there comes a point where you have to realize that in the end, there’s only so much you can do. and you have to look out for yourself.
4. If you had to choose between telling the truth and hurting a friend or lying and making them happy, which would you choose?
TRUTH. Honesy really is the best policy.
5. Which would you rather hear–the truth which will hurt, or the comforting lie?
TRUTH. Honesy really is the best policy.
I’m sorry none of your “friends” have bothered making the effort to stay in touch with you after you moved. That would be really disheartening and I’d be just as upset if it happened to me!
You know I can definitely relate to you on this. It’s the one reason I did a “facebook purge” a few weeks ago to get rid of all the people I never talk to. The only people I kept were those I actually kept in contact with…and then a few I knew would start some drama llamas with me if they found out I’d “purged” them. :P
People are stupid and I have no idea what is so damn hard with maintaining a friendship. They beat around the bush and make all those lame excuses that are SO transparent. Then they are hypocritical!!!!! AUGH, I hate hypocrits.
This is why I want to see you when we come to California in October. Have you ever seen Anne of Green Gables? We are kindrid spirits, Cristina.
I want to hang out with you so much it killz meeee! You never know…Chaz and I haven’t figured out 100% where we want to live after he graduates. Maybe we’ll like CA? :D